Disclaimer: the following post contains liberal use of the f-word. Please be advised.
"I've been reading your blog. I'm really enjoying it BUT..."
Here we go.
I got totally called out, by my mom. I have a potty mouth and apparently it's offensive.
To set the scene, we had been together approximately fifteen minutes and had just gotten into the car. I'm driving and this is what she decides to bring up. Great. Of course, I'm instantly annoyed and feel defensive, so I'm silent. I cuss ALOT, I get it. I want this blog to be my voice, I want my friends to read it and feel like they hear me. Obviously, there is a time and a place for everything, and in my opinion this includes the use of profanity, especially fuck. I sprinkle it in for effect but I certainly hope that it isn't readers takeaway.
In retrospect, I'm more understanding of where she was coming from. I've had time to digest her feedback and no longer feel ambushed. After all, everyone has an opinion and I'm glad she felt comfortable enough to share hers with me. I have put a lot of time and thought into previous posts, and this one, feeling defensive seemed natural. I hope that she is also more understanding of where I'm coming from and if she isn't, I hope that this post can help iron that out.
Her argument included the fact that I could use an edited version, something like f!#%, and still achieve the effect I was going for. I understand her perspective, but I disagree. When I say the f-word it's usually because an edited form is not appropriate or doesn't convey the emotion I would like for it to. I get it, it's the farthest thing from ladylike as you can possibly get. My use of it and other profanity is probably excessive and this probably isn't the best version of my persona to show the world.
My mom also said that the f-word was in the same class as some of the most awful words that exist. She gave examples, I will not. Again, I disagree but completely understand her perspective. Some of her comparison words were so distasteful that I don't even like knowing them. In my opinion, the f-word is not in the same league. It's different. It's raunchy and outrageously inappropriate and that's pretty much the reason I think I use it, shock value.
Moving forward, I would like to say that I don't give a fuck, but obviously, in writing this post, I am proving that I in fact, DO give a fuck. Click here for a terrific example of someone who is successful in the art of not giving a fuck. I'm sorry if I've offended you (Mom and any others) and I will make an attempt to exhaust all other word options before settling on the f-word in the future.
To end on a high note, I've included a link to one of my favorite guided meditations. You guessed it, it's also rated R (language only). Let's shake it off and move on. Let's all take a deep breathe and laugh about it. In the end, it's just a word.